...yeah, so I was over at RD--I'm usually at RD, because it's my television, lol--and I went down this thread. I rarely go down threads that I know will irritate me. After doing it twice this year, you think I'd learn.
I think what really gets me is how insular people are. Like they have blinders on or something. Sometimes I post on Absolute Write, sometimes I post elsewhere--I'm active in the blogosphere, but no matter where I go and what I do, I always remember that what I say can and will be pulled up. Back when I first googled my name, I found letters I'd written to the editor back when in the nineties because there's some kind of Vermont think-tank archiving them. A while later I found "Beach woman takes top honors in Strawberry cook-off" and...a comment I'd posted on someone's LiveJournal.
The comment made me think, so I brought up each and every search engine and ran my name. I found things I never knew existed--many thanks to Kaige for all the kind words she's said all over the internet about me, lol, these many years--and it made realize just how public writers are.
I'm a firm believer that if it's negative, you'd better think a couple of times before you hit send. I can't count the number of times I've composed a really long, scathing reply, or asked someone what the hell they were thinking--then hit erase.
If you talk on a forum, there are easily thousands of members, many of whom are agents, editors and industry professionals--what makes you think someone isn't reading your thread? I mean, come on. If someone says something about Samhain, you don't think Angela James isn't right there reading it? I'd love to know which member is really Promo Crystal, the Phaze announcer. Faith from Freya, the people from Red Rose, every small press and e-pub has a presence. So if you say, well--this and that about a publisher, maybe it's time to take a good hard look at exactly what you said from an objective viewpoint, because like Human Resources would say, "What you say isn't as important as what the other people perceive you said."